BY GEORGINA DUAH
Couples yearn to live closely to each partner to able to do things together like eating together at the same table, taking a walk together, holding each other’s hand etc. These experiences are the wish of long distance relationships. Long distance relationships may be difficult and presumed by many as complicated and something that will never work out.
The fact is no couple can be in a long distance relationship forever and definitely have to settle down. Long distance relationships have the prospect of potentially collapsing, but that doesn’t mean they’re impossible. Adjusting your attitude and lifestyle can help you keep your loved one in your life.
Advice for long distance relationships – tips
First and foremost you need to build trust: As long you both are interested in keeping the relationship, let not the distance you share make any difference. You being in a long distance relationship doesn’t mean your social life has to come to an end. You must not interrogate your partner anytime he/she hangs out with friends or misses your call. Be calm and not anxious or jealous if you don’t always know what your partner is up to. Try to maintain your social activities and be enthused with yourselves.
Secondly communication is a key factor in sustaining long distance relationships: it is important to create and preserve the emotional connection. Discuss your achievements and misfortunes, ask for your partner’s opinion. You can use chats or webcams and other programs for pictorial connection. You can also write love letters and send gifts which are tangible.
Furthermore you have to support each other: since you are not in a short distance relationship, it is vital to be there for your partner when he / she is in trouble. Be there physically when you are needed because most often your presence with a loved one through his / her trying times gives the assurance that the love you have for each other is still alive and kicking.
Moreover you have to talk about your goals and expectations of the relationship: it is important that you two have the same goals and expectations. Questions like how long you plan on being apart? What the future holds for you two? What you want to achieve at the end of the day. Both of you need to be clear with what your expectations are of with each other. In the middle of this long distance relationship make plans and set rules so that none of you will do things that will take your partner by surprise or disappoint them. This will give you an insight about your relationship whether you are working towards a future that includes both of you.
In a long distance relationship you have to prioritize the time you share: remember you don’t get to see each other often and when you are fortunate to, take as much advantage as possible to be intimate with each other. This is an opportunity for you to keep the feelings of attraction and excitement alive.
Last but not least is to focus on the positive aspects of a long distance relationship: to keep the fire burning use this occasion to pursue your interests, hobbies and careers. Also see it as a temporary state and the happiness and security you feel can be conveyed to your partner too. You have to see the distance between you as an opportunity to learn. There is a known view that living apart is a test of your love for each other and if you want to live together, you have to be apart for a period.
Georgina Duah is a relationship counselor and current author of Ask Love Dr. Website: http://asklovedr.com/
(Article source: ArticleBase.com)
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